Butt Plugs: No Ifs, Ands, or Buts!
The Complete Guide to Butt Plugs
As much as we all love to make light of butt play, the truth is that the anus, both externally, and internally, is a pleasure vortex of sensitive nerve endings. There’s a reason that butt related sex toys are so prolific: anal stimulation, whether it’s rimming, or prostate massage, can feel really, really good.
If you’re new to anal play, and are looking to try out sex toys specific to anal stimulation, then look no further than the humble butt plug. Whether you’re looking for a rimming sensation that will knock your socks off, or for a prostate massage that will bring on your best ‘O’ face, there is a trusty butt plug out there just for you.
Butt wait, there’s more!
In this Complete Guide to Butt Plugs, we’ll cover the basics of the butt plug, and how best to use them. We’ll also delve into recommendations for finding the best butt plug for you, and we’ll cover all of the ins-and-outs (pun-intended) of butt plug maintenance and hygiene. If you want to learn everything there is to learn about butt plugs, then buckle up and keep on reading!
What Do Butt Plugs Do? What are Butt Plugs For?
So what is a butt plug anyway? And why should you use one instead of, say, a dildo, or vibrator?
Butt plugs are anatomically different from dildos and vibrators, and while the latter are more suited to the ins-and-outs (again, pun intended) of penetration, butt plugs are sort of a ‘plug and play’ toy. A butt plug is shaped to stay in, flaring out at its base so that it can comfortably sit between your butt cheeks and not budge. It’s also made to stay out – allowing for play without worry of ‘losing’ a toy inside of you.
Depending on what kind of stimulation you’re seeking, the part of the butt plug that goes inside can be shaped to tickle your prostate, or stimulate your butt hole. Some butt plugs are for stationary use (especially those that press against the prostate) whilst others are equipped with motors, and vibrate. Of course, butt plugs can be used for in-and-out penetration in the classic manner; they’re just less built for that than dildos and other penetration-focused toys.
But where butt plugs shine is how they feel when plugged in.
A butt plug can stay in during other play; whether you’re penetrating while getting your prostate massaged, or enjoying some rimming whilst getting penetrated yourself, or even if you’re going solo, the added stimulation that a butt plug brings will help to maximize your orgasms.
How To Use a Butt Plug
Depending on the type of experience and stimulation you’re seeking during play, the best way to use your butt plug may vary. We’ve broken down the most common reasons for using a butt plug during solo or partnered sexy times, and how best to use your plug to get the most out of it.
And remember, guys, a stimulated prostate can give you the best orgasm of your life! And there are lots of benefits to a great orgasm!
First of all, let’s cover the universal basics:
Start Slow (like…really slow.)
It’s important to remind yourself that the anal canal is nothing like a vaginal canal; it can be a lot more fragile, and less easy to relax. It’s important when doing any sort of anal play, to start slow, and accept your body’s reaction. There are two rings of muscle around your anus, and together, they are called the sphincter. The outer layer of the sphincter can be relaxed via conscious effort, but the inner layer cannot. Make sure to play a little with your butt plug, and go slow, before trying to go all out. Use plenty of lube and massage the outside of your anus, gently dipping in slightly when you feel more at ease. When you can tell that your entire sphincter has relaxed and is ready to go, then slowly insert your plug.
When inserting a butt plug (or any object into your butt for that matter), a comfortable position can help tremendously with keeping your sphincter relaxed. As for what position will work best for you; just try many positions out and see how your body responds.
The most common positions are on your back, with pillows behind you, and your legs up bent towards your torso, or on all fours in a doggy position. You can try lowering yourself onto your plug, or inserting it slowly from behind when curled into a fetal position. Whatever position helps your butt relax the most, then that’s position for you.
Don’t be afraid to do some experimenting, and depending on how crazy you go, you may also want to do some stretching.
Now, onto the specifics:
There are butt plugs specially designed to stimulate the anus directly via a rimming sensation (see our recommendations below). These are often vibrating butt plugs that vibrate specifically where the plug is tapered, just before it flares out.
If you’re wanting to stimulate your anus externally, but not internally, a vibrating butt plug may still work for you. Simply lube up your plug, and press its vibrating body against your anus as you see fit.
For Prostate Massage
If you’ve got a prostate, trust us when we say: you should definitely stimulate it. Get a butt plug that’s longer in length, and designed to reach that special spot. You can tell prostate massage plugs apart from the others, as they’re generally longer and curved. Whilst your prostate is stimulated, you may want to have other areas pleasured to enhance the fun, or you may want to focus on the prostate alone – everybody is different.
For G-spot Stimulation
The wall that separates the colon from the vaginal shaft is quite thin, and because of this, some people find that butt plugs help to massage their G-spot. See if this is the case for you by trying out a plug either on its own, or during dual penetration when being penetrated vaginally. Butt plugs can add a whole new dimension to vaginal stimulation by reaching those hard to reach spots through the back door.
For Preparing for Anal Sex
Some butt plugs are designed to help you ready yourself for full penetration. The tapered end of a butt plug helps with this by easing your sphincter open, rather than using blunt force. If you’re using butt plugs to ready yourself for full penetration, then remember to go slow. You might want to get a set of butt plugs which ascend in size. There are butt plug kits designed this way for this very purpose. When you’ve got your plugs ready, lube up and gently insert the plugs in an ascending order. Don’t try to put a plug in straight away; make sure to use that gentle dipping motion we mentioned earlier. This will help your sphincter relax; making it able to accept the next size up.
For Extra Sensation During Penetration
This can work both ways; you may wish to penetrate a partner, whilst receiving extra stimulation by wearing a butt plug during, or you could be vaginally penetrated, whilst wearing a butt plug to increase the amount of internal stimulation you’re receiving. Either way, wearing a butt plug during intercourse can be a hell of a lot of fun. There are obvious best practice tips here: butt plugs shouldn’t be shared between partners during a session without sanitization between swapping. It’s important to find the right shaped butt plug for you, and one that stays put during vigorous movement. Depending on your own unique anatomy, and how much you like to clench, you may have to try differently weighted toys to see what’s best for your butt.
(Butt plugs aren’t your thing? No worries – we have The Complete Guide to Sex Toys to make sure you stay satisfied.)
Do’s and Don’ts of Butt Plugs
DO use plenty of lube
Unlike the vagina, the anal cavity doesn’t provide its own lubrication. If you try using a butt plug – or receiving any anal penetration – without using lubrication, you can expect to experience pain and discomfort, and you may end up sustaining injuries. Friction is the least sexy thing you can introduce into an anal play sesh, so make sure that whenever the butt plug comes out, the lube does with it. We recommend laying down a towel (or sex blanket, if you will) before lubing up. It’ll enable you to be more liberal with your lube, as you can put to bed your worries over making a mess. Trust us, you’re going to need to use a LOT of lube.
DON’T use silicone, with silicone
Most butt plugs are made of, or at least coated with, silicone. Avoid using silicone based lubes with silicone toys, as like-with-like results in a messy situation. Silicone can deform, and even melt when introduced to other silicones, so stick with water based lube when playing with your plugs!
DO take regular breaks
While leaving your butt plug in during a particularly long romp may seem like a great way to enhance the experience, keep in mind that most plugs, due to their size, and shape, can decrease the blood flow in your colon. For this reason, it’s important to take your plug out, and give your butt a breather, after about 2-3 hours of usage. If you notice any prolonged discomfort, pain, or bleeding while you have your plug in, then take it out immediately and don’t try again until another day. If you’ve torn anything, or injured yourself, you need to give your body some rest and recoup time – and might even want to see a medical professional.
DON’T use numbing creams
There’s a reason for pain and discomfort: it’s your body’s way of telling you that damage is being done. Some people like to take a shortcut through discomfort and pain when getting into anal play, and use numbing creams and sprays to do so. This is always a bad idea. You are more likely to injure yourself when using numbing agents, as you won’t be able to respond to any discomfort. If using a butt plug, or receiving any sort of anal penetration, or massage, stay away from numbing products.
DO try an anal cleansing routine pre-anal play
While not mandatory, cleaning your colon pre butt plug, and other anal play, helps to keep your sessions free of unwanted bodily fluids. You can purchase anal douches or enemas online, at most pharmacies and drug stores, and even some adult stores. Never douche with harsh chemicals, or soaps – simply use water, and do your douching in the shower to help wash away anything that might rear its head. We won’t delve too deeply into anal cleansing here, but why not peruse the internet for one of the many comprehensive how-to’s on preparing for anal play?
Better Butt-er Butt Plug! 😉
The Best Beginner’s Butt Plug
If you’re only just entering butt plug territory, then why not start small? Vamp’s Amos Anal plugs come in a variety of sizes, all of which are slim – making them ideal for beginners. You could stick with whichever size you like, or buy the whole set. As mentioned above, having a set of plugs which increase in size can help you ‘train’ for more vigorous penetration. Made of soft, flexible silicone, these anal plugs are best paired with a water-based lube.
Looking for a discreet, vibrating butt plug that you can customize with a phone app? Look no further than the Je Joue Nuo. Smooth, easy to use, and great for beginners, this vibe-come-plug is ideal for exploring the wonders of gentle, buzzing stimulation.
The Best Sensational Butt Plug
Don’t be too intimidated by its size, the Helix SYN by Aneros is designed to reach the prostate, and boy, does it reach it well. Its body is rigid, but finely coated in soft silicone, making it the perfect fit for a mind-blowing prostate massage. Designed to be hands-free, you can plug it and leave it, and see what prostate stimulation can do for your bedroom romps.
More interested in rimming than anything else? This B-Vibe Rimming plug is specifically designed to stimulate you in a rimming motion. Using small rotating balls just beneath its soft silicone surface, this plug will rim you in your most sensitive anal region (your butt hole!). The entire plug gently vibrates, ensuring you’re getting served in every special spot possible.
This pyrex butt plug is easy on the wallet, and ideal for those looking to massage their prostate, or G-spot, on a budget. Being made of pyrex means it’s also lightweight (for those on the move) and easy to clean. You can use just about any kind of lube with it, and it can be easily thrown in the dishwasher.
Caring For Your Butt Plug
A butt plug is a best friend, and should be treated as such. If you enjoy your butt plug, make sure you get the most out of it by taking care of it between uses. Maintaining hygiene, and good storage practices will not only increase the longevity of your toy, it’ll also save you from infection, and nosey friends, or family. There are a few things to consider when figuring out how best to care for your butt plug:
Butt Plug Hygiene
It probably will come as no surprise to you that butt plug hygiene is very important. Apart from the obvious (it goes in your butt, duh) any sex toy – including the butt plug – is an ideal vehicle for spreading infection and bacterial nasties.
A butt plug should never be shared between partners without a quick cleanse, and butt plugs should never, ever be left to fester on a bedside table post play sesh. Make sure you have a strict hygiene routine for your butt plug that you can use during sex, and straight after.
(In fact, make sure all of your sex toys are being properly sanitized!)
When building your routine, consider your needs: can you wash your butt plug in the nearest sink, or do you have lurking family members or housemates? Is your butt blug made of a material that is dishwasher safe, and is a dishwasher safe to use depending on who has access to it? Are you extremely lazy, and need a very easy bedside cleaning solution?
While hand washing or ddishwashingyour butt plug may work for most of you who have the energy or privacy, for those of you who don’t, there is an alternative.
That alternative is the impressive hi-tech sex toy cleaning solution called the UVee. It’s a storage and sanitizing system all-in-one. The UVee sanitizes toys by way of UV-C light. This means, after playing with your butt plug, you can roll over in bed, toss it in the UVee and simply set, and forget. The UVee can sanitize your butt plug in 5-10 minutes, making it a great alternative for partners who are sharing sex toys as well. Simply wait a few minutes and you’re good to go!
Butt Plug Storage
While we’re on the topic of storing your butt plug, we want to take a moment to remind you that making a home for your sex toys is not only important for privacy reasons, but also maintenance. Depending on what your butt plug is made of, it may react negatively to being stored alongside other toys (for example, silicones tend to misshapen when up against other silicones), or it may weather over time when exposed to sunlight, dust, or everyday bacteria. Keeping your butt plug clean doesn’t stop at the cleansing stage; your butt plug needs to be stored safely to ensure it stays sanitized between uses.
Throwing your butt plug into your bedside drawer is a surefire way to dirty it, and even break it – so heed our warning! Try using a satin baggie to keep your butt plug in, or even a storage box. Keep away from most plastic Tupperware, as plastics may leach chemicals into your more porous toys over time.
There are storage solutions specific for sex toys, and butt plugs. The UVee is one of them. As we mentioned before, it’s a storage and sanitization solution in one. The final feature of the UVee makes it perfect for keeping your motorized butt plugs; it allows you to charge your butt plug while it’s locked away by a pin code. Never experience the disappointment of whipping out a dead vibrator; always have your motorized butt plugs ready to go by charging them while you store them.
Depending on how private you need to be with your butt plug, you may want to consider storage options that are secure. For example, the UVee is lockable via pin code.
This means your butt plug is guaranteed to stay a bedroom secret.
If you don’t have the means to purchase yourself a lockable storage unit, try keeping your butt plug stored in a secret place (perhaps under the bed, or in a shoebox in your wardrobe). Some butt plugs are discreet enough that you don’t have to worry too much if they are discovered. If you are bound to have prying eyes find anything you try to keep private in your room, having a butt plug that looks less like a sex toy and more like an indiscriminate piece of tech might be the best route for you.
Discreet butt plugs are great for on-the-go toys for this reason, as well. If you’re carrying your butt plug in your purse, or luggage, bringing one along that’s neither massive, or obvious, is probably the best idea.
While our behind often ends up the butt of jokes, it’s time to admit that all those nerve endings, and special spots, are indeed magical to play with.
As with any toys that are introduced into the most intimate of settings, and bodily places, there are plenty of best practice tips – and even rules – you should adhere by. In a nutshell, we encourage that you use plenty of lube, go slow, and build a thorough hygiene routine using the best possible cleaning tools.
For anyone who’s curious about butt play, we hope our Complete Guide has provided you with that gentle push you needed to grab a butt plug of your very own. We guarantee that your new toy will help you to experience everything your G-spot, or prostate, and overall ‘derrière’ has to offer.